Among Friends

Is it possible to be friends with a woman who breaks up with you even though you still want to be in a relationship with her?

It is possible, but it isn't healthy for you or does any good.

The reality of life is men and women can be friends or lovers, but never be both at the same time.

You can change a friend into a lover and a lover into a friend but you can't be both.

If you still want her as a lover it is impossible to treat her as a friend.
As a friend, you might hear about her current activities with the new men (Lovers) in her life and sometimes even be a witness to those facts.

As a lover in wanting pretending to be a friend, you will treat your time together as if you were actual lovers and you will treat and react to her new lovers in the same way a man who is her lover would.

Yu will become angry, jealous and very upset.

Whether or not you show how you really feel will all depend on how weak you have allowed yourself to become.

The weaker you get the less you will be able to show how you really feel.

In addition, the longer you continue to act as a friend even though you wish to be her lover, the longer you will not be able to attract any other women into your life as well.

Even though acting like you are still friends after the break up may seem okay or even easy to do.
As long as you have feelings for her in a "Lover" kind of a way, it is the worst thing you can do for you and any chance you might have with her or any other woman.

Many people find it difficult to make new friends as they get older. Yet some older people are able to have an active social life as they age. We should all learn the secrets to having a successful social life no matter how old we get.

Why is it important to keep making new friends as you grown older? Those seniors who are isolated and lonely tend to have more health problems and a poorer quality of life than those who have a good social network of friends and family.

Older people confront unique challenges in trying to make new friends for these reasons:

- Older people may become less physically mobile and more confined to home.

- They often have less money to spend on recreation and entertainment.

- Older people are also more likely to suffer from depression and withdraw from others.

- They may be physically frail and afraid to go out at night.

- Conversations may become more difficult when hearing and eyesight start to fail.

Even if they remain healthy themselves, aging people experience the deaths of long time friends and spouses. This means that their circle of social and emotional support will shrink and eventually disappear unless they make a point of making new friends in an ongoing way.

If you don't make an active committment to seek out and make new friends as you grow older, and as life circumstances change, there is a danger that you could end up isolated and lonely.

The world will not necessarily make it easy for you to make new friends as you get older, but just because it may be harder doesn't mean that you shouldn't try.

In the modern western world, older people are often treated as if their usefulness is finished, and as if what they have to say is not really relevant to the young.

Many older people are shocked to discover when they retire at the age of sixty or sixty-five, that the friendships they thought had developed at work do not survive the retirement party.

People in North America are much more segregated along age lines than people in some other parts of the world. In North America, teenagers tend to socialize with other teenagers, and older people are expected to make friends with other older people.

No matter where you live, or what your age, you do not need to follow your local society's dictates about what age your friends should be. You do not need to restrict yourself to making friends only with your own age group.

Sometimes you may find you develop a true friendship bond with someone who is decades younger than you, or someone from a different race or culture that you previously knew nothing about.

No matter what your current age may be, if you are concerned that you may be lonely in your later years, the time to start doing something about it is now.

Make a point of being outgoing and starting up a few conversations each day everywhere you go. Call up people from the past and ask them to meet you for lunch or coffee.

Find some local groups that need your help. Join some clubs and organizations that involve younger people and not just seniors. Be friendly and approachable, and keep an open mind.

As you grow older, make sure you stay living in the present, not in the past.

In your conversations with others, don't be fixated on who you used to be. Don't talk only about yourself and your children's lives, or complain about all your ailments and operations.

It's important to listen to others and let conversation become a two way street.

Be willing to make many social approaches to others, no matter what the outcome. Stay interested in the current world and stay optimistic.

You will only make new friends if you can show that you can be interesting and interested in others.

How to find a friend the easy way? Finding those that you went to high school with would be amazing, wouldn't it? You can catch up on all of the things that have happened to you both. While friendships often don't last forever, sometimes it's nice to go back and revisit them again. The problem with this is that people move, change phone numbers, get married and even change their names. This makes it that much more difficult to find the person that you want to find. Nevertheless, it is still possible to find all of your old friends and acquaintances when you know exactly what to look for.

How To Get Started

When you begin looking for someone, you may be baffled by what to do. A simple look in the phone book doesn't tell you anything. Perhaps the neighborhood where you grew up is no longer the same and their family has moved away. Even worse, you don't even have their old phone number or address. What can you do to find those that you loved and lost, then?

One solution is to use one of the many different resources available online. There are a variety of companies that can help you to get in touch with those that you want to find. They will take your specific information, or what you know and help you to look for these individuals using professional services. Sometimes tapping into school databases like yearbooks and old files can help. Other times, nationwide name searches can provide some direction.

If you do use these services to find those that you knew a long time ago, you'll want to consider which one is the best one for you to use. Sometimes, they are better at what they can provide to you. Sometimes, you'll find that one service is less expensive than another, but always learn if the quality of service diminishes with the price. One of the best things to do is to use the web to find reviews of these services from others that have already used them.

When you can't find the people that you used to know and love from way back when, use these professional services to help you. Chances are good that you'll find many different sources that can help you to put together the puzzle and get your answers in place and help you to find the people you want to find.