tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-47353098290513804422024-03-08T02:52:38.196-08:00Among FriendsWonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-15120530791671335182007-11-17T03:12:00.001-08:002007-11-17T03:12:18.023-08:00Pasadena man remorseful about killings captured on 911 call, attorney says<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>The Pasadena adult male who killed two suspected burglars as they left his next-door neighbor's place did not mean to kill them when he stepped outside with his 12-gauge shotgun, his lawyer said Friday. </p><p>In portraying Joe Horn as a victim of circumstances, lawyer and longtime friend Uncle Tom Lambright called the 61-year-old computer adviser "a good household man" who have been devastated by the Wednesday afternoon burglary and shooting. </p><p>Killed in the incident in the 7400 block of Timber Line were Miguel Antonio DeJesus, 38, and Diego Ortiz, 30, both of Houston. </p><p>Each had a minor former brushwood with the law. Records show DeJesus was charged with failure to place himself to a police force military officer in July 2004. He pleaded guilty and was sentenced to 20 years in jail. Ortiz was charged with ownership of marihuana in July 2005, but it was later dismissed. </p><p>"He (Horn) was just doing what everyone is supposed to do," Lambright said at a news conference in presence of the Houston police force commemoration near downtown. "He called the police. He was cooperating with them as best he could, trying to give the police force the way of the burglars. He knew there was danger going outside."<br /></p><p>Horn ignored repeated instruction manual from a 911 starter to stay in his home. He told the dispatcher, "I'm not going to allow them acquire away with it. I can't take a opportunity in getting killed over this. OK? I'm gonna shoot. I'm gonna shoot."<br /></p><p>While lawyers and legal experts across the metropolis continued to debate the legality of Horn's actions, he have left town with his family, Lambright said. </p><p>"Hopefully he will see a physician and maybe acquire a sedative," he said. "He is not well mentally. This have devastated him. Not in his wildest dreamings could he fathom this event."<br /></p><p>Lambright said Horn, whom he have considered a friend for 41 years, wept inconsolably during their conversations. </p><p>"Joe is the absolute antonym of what everyone believes he is," Lambright said. "He is not a cowboy. He is not physical. He's 61 old age old and overweight. He's not confrontational. He's just a good guy."<br /></p><p>Lambright read a written statement in which Horn said the violent deaths would "weigh heavily on me for the remainder of my life. My ideas travel out to the loved 1s of the deceased."<br /></p><p>Lambright said Horn was a hunter, but kept the scattergun in his pickup truck "for security."<br /></p><p><br />No pieces in houseHorn lives with his girl and granddaughter and makes not maintain pieces in the house, his lawyer said. </p><p>Lambright said Horn was upstairs working at a computing machine about 2 p.m. when he heard the sound of breakage glass next door. Horn called 911, engaging in a drawn-out conversation with the dispatcher, who repeatedly advised him to wait inside until police force arrived. </p><p>"Mr. Horn, make not travel outside the house. You're going to acquire yourself shot if you travel outside that house with a gun," the starter told Horn at one point. </p><p>"You wanna do a bet," Horn responded. "I'm gonna killing them. They're gonna acquire away."<br /></p><p><br />Legal sentiments conflictLambright contended that Horn was startled to happen the burglars just 15 feet from his presence door when he stepped onto his porch. "He was petrified at that point," the lawyer said. "You hear him say, 'I'll shoot. Stop!' They jumped. Joe thought they were coming for him. It's a self-defense issue." <br /></p><p>Attorneys and legal experts said Horn's defence probably will be based on state law that lets people to utilize deathly military unit to protect neighbors' property. </p><p>"If you see person stealing your neighbor's property, you can acquire involved and assist to halt it," said Sandra Guerra Thompson, a law professor at the University of Houston Law Center. </p><p>Others disagreed. </p><p>The legislative acts that let people to utilize deathly military unit to halt a burglary look to necessitate that the incident be occurring at night, said Craig Jett, a Dallas criminal defence lawyer and president of the Lone-Star State Criminal Defense Lawyer's Association. </p><p>"It can't be during the day," Jett said. </p><p>Experts said that a expansive jury may sympathise with Horn. Some people believe that you should be able to protect your neighborhood, said Antony Osso, a Houston criminal defence attorney. </p><p>Osso said that Horn's defence might be that he wanted to forestall the robbers from leaving until police force arrived, but they tried to fly and he shot them. </p><p>"His best scenario is that he went out to utilize the menace of deathly force," Osso said. "But they came at him on his ain property."<br /></p><p>Osso said Horn's 911 phone call makes not state the whole narrative about the shooting. Investigators will necessitate information about where the suspects were shot and if they had stopped when Horn ordered them not to move. </p><p>"Some people on the expansive jury will sympathise with him," said Adam Gershowitz, a law professor at South Lone-Star State College of Law. "Maybe he shouldn't have got done this, but he was acting in a manner a batch of people feel."<br /></p><p>But that makes not intend he won't be charged, Gershowitz added. </p><p>"There's a ground we don't allow people take the law into their ain hands," he said. "We have got a police military unit force for that. As an constituted society, we believe we are better off with an authorised police military unit force that have criteria and preparation rather than untrained vigilantes."<br /></p><p>A copy of the 911 phone call proposes Horn intended to make what he felt necessary to halt the burglars. Despite a combined attempt by the starter to carry him to allow police force trade with the break-in, Horn was repetitive on trying maintain them from getting away. </p><p>"I don't desire you going outside, Mr. Horn," the starter said. </p><p>"Well, here it goes, buddy," Horn said. "You hear the scattergun clicking, and I'm going."<br /></p><p>Seconds later three scattergun blasts are heard. </p><p><br />Praise for dispatcherExperts who reviewed a recording of the phone phone call at the Chronicle's petition said the starter handled the call professionally and did all he could to defuse the state of affairs until police force arrived. </p><p>"He was doing everything he could to 'normalize' the conversation and not agitate the company any further," said Sue Pivetta, a preparation adviser from Sumner, Wash. "Trust me when I state that he was indeed showing professional control at the peak level."<br /></p><p>Charles Carter, a former police force executive director in Capital Of Georgia who have trained starters for two decades, said the military officer who handled Horn's phone call used proven techniques to deter him from leaving his home. </p><p>"We learn a technique called insistent persistence," Howard Carter said. "It necessitates to be at a degree less than the individual career to seek to acquire him to calm down down and listen to you. He did an outstanding occupation and demands to be commended."<br /></p><p>Chronicle newsmen Microphone Tolson and Babe Ruth Rendon contributed to this report. </p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-28627685507756983102007-09-13T10:08:00.001-07:002007-09-13T10:08:51.470-07:00Aim High<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>Are you going all the way?<br/><br /> Can you do it one day?<br/><br /> Rich Person you decided upon your destination?<br/><br /> Bash you really desire to travel there?<br/><br /> Rich Person you considered the fare?<br/><br /> Would you maintain the course of study with no alteration?<br/><br /> Purpose High! Be Steady!</p><p>When you travel up and down,<br/><br /> and true peace you haven't found<br/><br /> Perhaps your estimate of your possible is to low,<br/><br /> don't be too proud to impart a hand<br/><br /> your sense of accomplishment will expand<br/><br /> and you'll derive the necessary minute as you go.<br/><br /> Purpose High! Be Confident!</p><p>By helping others you will gain<br/><br /> So doing discontinue to complain.<br/><br /> As you lose yourself for the enrichment for others:<br/><br /> you'll happen your purpose so much better<br/><br /> you're living by the spirit of the law not the missive of the law<br/><br /> 1 for all and all for one, <br/><br /> Simply all Sisters and Brothers <br/><br /> Purpose High! Person depends upon your success.</p><p>Keep your mentum up and eyes consecutive ahead.<br/><br /> Bash not change your course, be wary don't be misled<br/><br /> Be courageous, be consistent, be on time give all that you can-<br/><br /> purpose with accuracy, purpose with care,<br/><br /> the attention I talk of, the care, to share,<br/><br /> don't take too high to see an outstreched hand.<br/><br /> Purpose with love! Purpose High! There's the challenge.</p><p>Give it your best don't number the cost<br/><br /> less than your best and the high conflict is lost,<br/><br /> if you're given your very best you won't be blamed,<br/><br /> The Great Scorer, sees attempt and desire<br/><br /> the love of others their good to acquire,<br/><br /> and he ranks us upon the tallness and<br/><br /> the manner we've aimed.<br/><br /> Purpose High! Come Along!</p><p>Don't be discouraged life can be a lark,<br/><br /> We've aimed with love we've hit our mark<br/><br /> Don't take with arms purpose with bosom and soul<br/><br /> And if we aimed for the social welfare of others<br/><br /> We've hit our goal.<br/><br /> Purpose High! Praise God!</p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-76215334757047965562007-09-11T08:10:00.001-07:002007-09-11T08:10:39.033-07:00Dear Lord<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>Loving Burns me up<br/><br /> it's my truth and I'll state it again<br/><br /> of your debts I've had enough<br/><br /> so take back your "Hi's" in a frame<br/><br /> I detest this human race around me<br/><br /> when you speak to him to tease<br/><br /> all your human race makes is hound dog me<br/><br /> Dear Godhead above<br/><br /> phone phone phone phone call me up<br/><br /> if you please<br/><br/></p><p>Loving Burns me up<br/><br /> your the sap and I'll state it again<br/><br /> of your stakes I've had enough<br/><br /> so take back your whies in a frame<br/><br /> I detest this human race around me<br/><br /> when you jest to him to tease<br/><br /> all your human race makes is land me<br/><br /> Dear Godhead above<br/><br /> call me up<br/><br /> if you please<br/><br/></p><p>and who cares if it's just hit you now<br/><br /> I'm too tired to give anymore anyhow<br/><br /> too me everything is achromatic and white<br/><br /> you did me incorrect now I'm doing you right<br/><br/></p><p>Loving Burns me up<br/><br /> your so owed and I'll state it again<br/><br /> of your diagnostic diagnostic tests I've had enough<br/><br /> so take back your prevarications in a frame<br/><br /> I detest this human race around me<br/><br /> when you walk to him to tease<br/><br /> all your human race makes is buffoon me<br/><br /> Dear Godhead above<br/><br /> call me up<br/><br /> if you please<br/><br/></p><p>Loving Burns me up<br/><br /> your so owed and I'll state it again<br/><br /> of your tests I've had enough<br/><br /> so take back your prevarications in a frame<br/><br /> I detest this human race around me<br/><br /> when you walk to him to tease<br/><br /> all your human race makes is buffoon me<br/><br /> Dear Godhead above<br/><br /> call me up<br/><br /> if you please</p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-80294752702322561192007-09-06T04:36:00.001-07:002007-09-06T04:36:55.131-07:00Five Poems on Death<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>Death Returns<br/></p><p>Death returns: it establish no resting place;<br/><br /> I saw it in flight, last nighttime over the Sierras;<br/><br /> beneath the last trips of twilight—!<br/><br /> The condor's wings covered death's decent;<br/><br /> and semivowels now through the air in peace!<br/><br /> Yet death's tail-shadow go forths at dawn, to<br/><br /> go back at dusk, blue-bellied full—as<br/><br /> if it have swallowed a giant (once again).<br/><br /> The condor, the condor, likened to a fly in a web<br/><br /> decease happens no rest, only new flesh, new flesh!<br/></p><p>No: 1949 8-27-2007<br/></p><p>Death: <br/><br /> The Roots of the Earth<br/></p><p>Death have a manner of saying Hello, when it intends Goodbye!<br/><br /> We beingnesses on earth's surface never really disappear—only <br/><br /> Transform. <br/></p><p>From the minute of decease the organic structure will change, you can't<br/><br /> hear it, it simply acquires foggy—becoming the roots of the earth.<br/></p><p>No: 1950 8-27-2007<br/></p><p>The Mystery of Life<br/></p><p>How enigmas to be born a human being<br/></p><p>—and then to decease as one!<br/><br /> To be able to rinse off those old fleshy garments<br/><br /> of bark and milky-clay…!<br/><br /> We are the honored ones—(you know)<br/><br /> given to a whole human race system—:<br/><br /> 1 manus stretch to Heaven the other to hell;<br/><br /> the truth is, we have got got got two flavors.<br/><br /> Those who have not been born yet:<br/><br /> adult male and animal are not so far apart<br/></p><p>(and very difficult to please).<br/></p><p>No: 1951 8-27-2007<br/></p><p>Dialogue with the Devil<br/></p><p>"I'll do a battalion with you," said He to me (the Devil),<br/><br /> "I have detested you long enough. I first proverb you as<br/><br /> a child—then when you were old adequate to do friends<br/><br /> I saw you again…. It was you who worshiped my kinds<br/><br /> of sins—then you broke away, but now is the clip to start<br/><br /> carving new adventures. Iodine have got left one run down and root for<br/><br /> you—let there be commercialism between us?"<br/></p><p>I said back to Him, "Dark eyed, tusk scandaled, there<br/><br /> is none like thee, among heaven, Earth or hell; none with <br/><br /> such arsenic Swift feet, like your tongue—dark as midnight<br/><br /> are your shoulders—face of a dead seabed."<br/></p><p>No: 1954, 8-28-2007 <br/></p><p>Selected for Death<br/></p><p>"No, no! Go from me—!" I left decease lately in her sheath<br/><br /> —oh! Dim it was, for she surrounded me. <br/><br /> Thin, are her arms, yet such as a grip—they jump me,<br/></p><p>immoveable, and left me…cloaked, as in a web,<br/><br /> a cocoon—subtle and fleet she was, like magic, in her<br/></p><p>binding.<br/><br /> "No, no! I cried, "go from me, I have got still your taste—<br/><br /> your scent, your soot, your aye—halt!"<br/><br /> (But she wouldn't listen.)<br/></p><p>No: 1952 8-28-2007<br/></p><p>Death Passed Me Once<br/></p><p>(1993) <br/></p><p>This adult male knew the secrets of decease <br/></p><p>(he project them over my head). <br/><br /> No adult male could cognize such as things, unless<br/></p><p>he was portion of it.<br/><br /> And now he's gone, he up and left—<br/></p><p>(just like that…).<br/><br /> Iodine called, "Are you near?" and he did <br/></p><p>not reply me back.<br/><br /> Then at the end of my bed, I saw—why!<br/><br /> There stood in my infirmary room, the<br/></p><p>eyes and shoulders of a great being:<br/><br /> He did not speak, —he simple watched <br/></p><p>over me.<br/></p><p>No: 1953 8-28-2007</p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-30571652278411225242007-08-30T11:08:00.001-07:002007-08-30T11:08:08.138-07:00A Mind Muted<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>A cold eventide and somehow the noise have died down. I happen my manner up to the top of my flat for no peculiar reason. The twenty-four hours was good.</p><p>The zephyr was strong, yet somehow it slowed down, as if in a grade of regard to me it looks to have got bowed to me. It's not gushing any more, just fluxes down gently singing a soothing short letter and cool just adequate to direct surprising a iciness down me now and again.</p><p>There are children playing down there, but they look distant.. almost in another world. I lie down with my custody behind my head, looking at a sky that somehow looks new. There is a new sky tonight.</p><p>My breath decelerates down, deciding to rest for a while. Its been running difficult for over 2 decennaries now, but the air looks to have got set it in a unusual trance.. and it looks to put down beside me.. taking a intermission before toiling to maintain me alive again...</p><p><i>give me this moment<br/><br /> it looks so much mine<br/><br /> for in this moment<br/><br /> i feel i ain time</i><br/></p><p>I close my eyes, the darkness looks lighter today. The ageless achromatic of the nighttime have a unusual chromaticity of a colour I don't cognize of.. there is a flicker in the apparent horizon which I don't really see. I felt as if person was looking over me; a minute go throughs by and now I experience person is looking at the human race through me and my closed eyes.</p><p>Eyes open, I sit down up staring at the window of an flat across the road. I don't recognize anything, I can't calculate out anything. Resting on my custody stretched behind me I look up at the sky. It is blank, much like my head and so thoughtless Iodine stare. It seemed as if a heavy head just lost its weight and floats. A plume with a aureate touch is all Iodine see though it is nowhere near me. Iodine bask in that moment.</p><p>I see nothing, I hear nothing.. I believe nothing.. yet at that minute I didn't experience no happiness.. of course of study there was no follow of compunction either, but it wasn't a state of happiness... still I wanted to stay in that state and just as I thought a diffident smiling spread.. a loud honk below and my eyes open.. I hear the noise below... children laughing and shouting, the birds of the eventide chirping flying about with a cheerful temperament to themselves. The idea of felicity ..the smile.. it broke me away from that moment.. I was feeling cheerful now but it wasn't what I was a minute back.. this cheeriness seemed uncomplete for its not what Iodine sought...I wanted to be in that minute .. thoughtless and pristine.. I looked around trying to happen an reply .. a happy adult male was looking for something beyond</p><p>The minute passed it never came back... and I inquire now is it felicity that we seek in life..</p><p><i>staring at the world<br/><br /> from up above<br/><br /> i proverb the impostor<br/><br /> that a smiling be<br/></i></p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-52800414345421772912007-08-23T12:48:00.001-07:002007-08-23T12:48:30.704-07:00Where Is the Sun<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>Today, I stood at the autobus halt somewhere in Greater London and my feet froze. I thought it was summer, or so the functionary clip have been telling me. "British Summer time". What have happened. Where is the summer? The weekend should have got been a warm one, 1 depository financial institution vacation gone another depository financial institution vacation coming soon. It is exactly as it says, a vacation for the Banks and no 1 else... without the sun and warmth, vacations don't experience like holidays.</p><p>People alteration when it is warm, they smile at you, nod in recognition and even sometimes state "nice twenty-four hours love". After being cocooned up all winter, the organic structure shouts gasping "vitamin Vitamin Vitamin Vitamin D vitamin D" "Give me vitamin D", toes look up at you and state "I desire to be free and colourful"...</p><p>The head travels into contrary manner in winter. Things that one tolerated when it was summertime go bothersome and intolerable. For example, that other five minute delay for the bus, or the presence of aliens (I have got experienced that). This looks to convey a scowl across the confronts of the indigenous not because they detest you but because they are fed up of life in the dull, damp, environment and as everyone knows, if you can't fault yourself or nature for a situation, incrimination person else...</p><p>If Iodine could transport the sunlight from the equator to Greater London I would, and would gladly pay the surplus luggage complaints the air hoses charge, just so that I could share it with everyone for FREE! Winter conveys sniffles, headaches, overspending and depressive eating.</p><p>The sun also conveys out surprises... Why else would you happen so many yet to be born appearing as soon as the sun come ups out. It is as though coats and jackets kept them concealed and the sun opened the gateway for them so they could shout, "look at me, I am about to be born,". I pray that the existent summertime come ups soon so that when the children who are out of school demand to play, the sun rather than Xboxes, PS2's and computing machines maintain them occupied. The sun do children act like children,it conveys out their youth. Until then I am thawing my toes against the radiator which was switched back on today.</p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-86487757580349324872007-08-16T10:16:00.001-07:002007-08-16T10:16:45.517-07:00Clothed in Fur - and - Honey and Light and Everthing Right<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'> <p>to fight<br/><br /> <br/><br /> human race have got got got taken all that in us is good<br/><br /> twined and mangled it for the sickness<br/><br /> in a portion of the world called the 'hood<br/><br /> <br/><br /> others of our race, but not our breed<br/><br /> are used as come-on for in-training fights<br/><br /> like us, they travel where the world lead<br/><br /> <br/><br /> but it's not their nature to lurch & bite<br/><br /> these gentler psyches immersed in violence<br/><br /> must dwell their life in panic and fright<br/><br /> <br/><br /> onto the blood spattered Earth we tread<br/><br /> the meek and the guiltless made mean<br/><br /> willing or no, to the cruel affray we're led<br/><br /> <br/><br /> and though we have been courageous and strong<br/><br /> in the ring some of us will neglect and fall<br/><br /> circled by a jeering, cheering, cold throng<br/><br /> <br/><br /> this shouldn't be how we get or end<br/><br /> retrieve us in the ideas you keep,<br/><br /> and include us in the supplications you send<br/><br /> <br/><br /> we were not meant to dwell this way<br/><br /> delight aid us anyway that you can<br/><br /> be our voices, for we don't have a say<br/><br /> <br/><br /> domestic dog combat should be forever banned...<br/><br /> <br/><br /> right of first publication 2007 by kathy pippig harris<br/><br /> <br/></p><p>*~~*~~*<br/><br /> <br/><br /> For Sluggo<br/><br /> In His hands, at The Bridge...<br/><br /> <br/><br /> ~~*~~*~~*~~*~~*~~*<br/><br /> <br/><br /> honey and visible visible visible visible visible light and everything right<br/><br /> <br/><br /> his glorious tawny coat is the silk of spun gold<br/><br /> the heat of his pelt is morning's first light<br/><br /> the shininess on his wing is that of polished amber<br/><br /> it's all just portion of what do him, oh so right<br/></p><p><br/><br /> what courses of study through his venas are liquid sun drops<br/><br /> for his heart's a beating light pumping aureate love<br/><br /> his eyes, soulful, are the colour of honey in moonlight<br/><br /> and his merry spirit is blessed by the angels above<br/><br /> he is all that is good, unbridled, and set free,<br/><br /> there's magic in his smiling and healing in his touch<br/><br /> this gentle beingness is the sun's light wrapped in fur<br/><br /> he who inquires so very small and gives so very much<br/></p><p><br/><br /> his look imparts more than than any words spoken<br/><br /> and as mighty as the pen is, it can't fully describe<br/><br /> his unconditional love, loyalty, and arrant devotion,<br/><br /> and the gifts of joyousness to be given, therein that reside<br/><br /> his fidelity dances 'round him on filigree wings<br/><br /> it's that nimbus, aflame, in aglow bright hues<br/><br /> the fulfilment of all my cherished, fantastic dreams<br/><br /> for now and ever, he's the first mate my psyche would choose<br/><br /> he is the bright light at each day's end<br/><br /> and the star radiance when nighttime clip sets in<br/><br /> like no other, he is my very beloved friend<br/><br /> come up dawning he's the rise sun and all...<br/><br /> ... that's right and GOLDEN<br/><br /> <br/><br /> right of first publication © 2004 by kathy pippig harris<br/></p> </div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-45217282564478626562007-05-27T12:12:00.001-07:002007-05-27T12:12:48.465-07:00Being Friends With Your ExGirlFriend When You Still Are Attracted To Her Doesnt Work<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'><p>Is it possible to be friends with a woman who breaks up with you even though you still want to be in a relationship with her?</p><p>It is possible, but it isn't healthy for you or does any good.</p><p>The reality of life is men and women can be friends or lovers, but never be both at the same time.</p><p>You can change a friend into a lover and a lover into a friend but you can't be both.</p><p>If you still want her as a lover it is impossible to treat her as a friend.<br /> As a friend, you might hear about her current activities with the new men (Lovers) in her life and sometimes even be a witness to those facts.</p><p>As a lover in wanting pretending to be a friend, you will treat your time together as if you were actual lovers and you will treat and react to her new lovers in the same way a man who is her lover would.</p><p>Yu will become angry, jealous and very upset.</p><p>Whether or not you show how you really feel will all depend on how weak you have allowed yourself to become.</p><p>The weaker you get the less you will be able to show how you really feel.</p><p>In addition, the longer you continue to act as a friend even though you wish to be her lover, the longer you will not be able to attract any other women into your life as well.</p><p>Even though acting like you are still friends after the break up may seem okay or even easy to do.<br /> As long as you have feelings for her in a "Lover" kind of a way, it is the worst thing you can do for you and any chance you might have with her or any other woman.</p></div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-87903495341994756722007-05-23T17:25:00.001-07:002007-05-23T17:25:09.728-07:00How to Have Lots of Friends In Your Old Age<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'><p>Many people find it difficult to make new friends as they get older. Yet some older people are able to have an active social life as they age. We should all learn the secrets to having a successful social life no matter how old we get.</p><p>Why is it important to keep making new friends as you grown older? Those seniors who are isolated and lonely tend to have more health problems and a poorer quality of life than those who have a good social network of friends and family.</p><p>Older people confront unique challenges in trying to make new friends for these reasons:</p><p>- Older people may become less physically mobile and more confined to home.</p><p>- They often have less money to spend on recreation and entertainment.</p><p>- Older people are also more likely to suffer from depression and withdraw from others.</p><p>- They may be physically frail and afraid to go out at night.</p><p>- Conversations may become more difficult when hearing and eyesight start to fail.</p><p>Even if they remain healthy themselves, aging people experience the deaths of long time friends and spouses. This means that their circle of social and emotional support will shrink and eventually disappear unless they make a point of making new friends in an ongoing way.</p><p>If you don't make an active committment to seek out and make new friends as you grow older, and as life circumstances change, there is a danger that you could end up isolated and lonely.</p><p>The world will not necessarily make it easy for you to make new friends as you get older, but just because it may be harder doesn't mean that you shouldn't try.</p><p>In the modern western world, older people are often treated as if their usefulness is finished, and as if what they have to say is not really relevant to the young.</p><p>Many older people are shocked to discover when they retire at the age of sixty or sixty-five, that the friendships they thought had developed at work do not survive the retirement party.</p><p>People in North America are much more segregated along age lines than people in some other parts of the world. In North America, teenagers tend to socialize with other teenagers, and older people are expected to make friends with other older people.</p><p>No matter where you live, or what your age, you do not need to follow your local society's dictates about what age your friends should be. You do not need to restrict yourself to making friends only with your own age group.</p><p>Sometimes you may find you develop a true friendship bond with someone who is decades younger than you, or someone from a different race or culture that you previously knew nothing about.</p><p>No matter what your current age may be, if you are concerned that you may be lonely in your later years, the time to start doing something about it is now.</p><p>Make a point of being outgoing and starting up a few conversations each day everywhere you go. Call up people from the past and ask them to meet you for lunch or coffee.</p><p>Find some local groups that need your help. Join some clubs and organizations that involve younger people and not just seniors. Be friendly and approachable, and keep an open mind.</p><p>As you grow older, make sure you stay living in the present, not in the past.</p><p>In your conversations with others, don't be fixated on who you used to be. Don't talk only about yourself and your children's lives, or complain about all your ailments and operations.</p><p>It's important to listen to others and let conversation become a two way street.</p><p>Be willing to make many social approaches to others, no matter what the outcome. Stay interested in the current world and stay optimistic.</p><p>You will only make new friends if you can show that you can be interesting and interested in others.</p></div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-68424673652032022192007-05-16T07:37:00.001-07:002007-05-16T07:37:59.931-07:00How To Find A Friend Online - Finding People From Yesteryear<div xmlns='http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml'><p>How to find a friend the easy way? Finding those that you went to high school with would be amazing, wouldn't it? You can catch up on all of the things that have happened to you both. While friendships often don't last forever, sometimes it's nice to go back and revisit them again. The problem with this is that people move, change phone numbers, get married and even change their names. This makes it that much more difficult to find the person that you want to find. Nevertheless, it is still possible to find all of your old friends and acquaintances when you know exactly what to look for.</p><p><b>How To Get Started</b></p><p>When you begin looking for someone, you may be baffled by what to do. A simple look in the phone book doesn't tell you anything. Perhaps the neighborhood where you grew up is no longer the same and their family has moved away. Even worse, you don't even have their old phone number or address. What can you do to find those that you loved and lost, then?</p><p>One solution is to use one of the many different resources available online. There are a variety of companies that can help you to get in touch with those that you want to find. They will take your specific information, or what you know and help you to look for these individuals using professional services. Sometimes tapping into school databases like yearbooks and old files can help. Other times, nationwide name searches can provide some direction.</p><p>If you do use these services to find those that you knew a long time ago, you'll want to consider which one is the best one for you to use. Sometimes, they are better at what they can provide to you. Sometimes, you'll find that one service is less expensive than another, but always learn if the quality of service diminishes with the price. One of the best things to do is to use the web to find reviews of these services from others that have already used them.</p><p>When you can't find the people that you used to know and love from way back when, use these professional services to help you. Chances are good that you'll find many different sources that can help you to put together the puzzle and get your answers in place and help you to find the people you want to find.</p></div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4735309829051380442.post-75074274769822764352007-04-30T04:00:00.000-07:002008-11-12T21:13:11.252-08:00It's Party Time!<h3 class="post-title"> </h3> <div class="post-body"> <center><a href="http://www.allposters.com/-sp/Cat-Party-Posters_i1528842_.htm?AID=423786166" target="_new"><img alt="Cat Party" src="http://imagecache2.allposters.com/images/EUR/2300-1370.jpg" border="0" /><br />Cat Party</a></center><p><a href="http://home.att.net/%7Escorh/"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5038421597584627138" style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center;" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_5mHn7oqAzdc/RewRv5CwFcI/AAAAAAAAAvs/IDSA3xVhMS4/s320/MGras01k.gif" border="0" /></a> <span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;">OK...folks...it's Party Time!!!<br />A whopping 52 people registered to win <a href="http://kentucky-gal.blogspot.com/2007/03/blogversary-giveaway.html">my blogversary give away</a>!!<br />My comments record has now been broken...I had 50 comments for the Blog Tour of Homes last summer and I thought that was a lot...but it consisted of strangers virtually coming by to say hi...this is my devoted pals that want a little something to remember my blogversary.</span><br /></p><p><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS;"></span><a href="http://home.att.net/%7Escorh/"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5038421498800379314" style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center;" alt="" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_5mHn7oqAzdc/RewRqJCwFbI/AAAAAAAAAvk/8Wim64978NA/s320/MGras01f.gif" border="0" /></a> <span style="font-family: trebuchet ms;">I'm just so proud to know you all!!<br />Someone did a meme the other day on 5 reasons why I blog...I've thought on it and I can't do just five...I actually have 52+ reasons to blog!!<br />So, without further ado, let's announce the winners...</span></p></div>Wonghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03777333291553361065noreply@blogger.com0